Would you say you have a bad attitude? Many times what we call a bad attitude is just a little grumpiness resulting from a bad day or dealing with a difficult situation. That’s normal.
What I mean by a bad attitude is when you store up the negativity so that it becomes a pervasive part of your life. You probably know the kind of person I’m talking about here… the ones who never have a good thing to say about anything, even if the sun is shining and they’ve just won the lottery!
That kind of bad attitude is like a dark cloud that’s attached to your head and goes everywhere you go, and blocks out all the good things in life. And one of the things it does best is sabotage your attempts to grow and live a more positive life.
The good news is that you have the power to give yourself an attitude adjustment. And I’ve got three simple tips for you that will get you started.
Tip #1 – Visualize a different life
Visualization is an amazing tool to use to change your attitude, if you use it the right way. It’s one thing to fantasize about how wonderful life would be if you were rich and famous, but that’s just what it is… fantasizing… unless you plan to actually do something to make it happen.
That’s where visualizing the ‘right way’ comes in. If you think about what you’d have to do to become rich or famous, and how your attitude might have to change for that to happen then you can focus on what your life would look like if you actually made those changes.
For example, if you can’t stand your job and love to complain about it, visualize what things would be like if you focused on what you DO like about it instead of what you don’t. And if you can’t come up with anything that you actually like about it, visualize what it would be like if you had a job you did like and how you might make that a reality.
When you focus on the outcome you want, and give your mind free rein to come up with solutions, you might be surprised at what you get. A change in your attitude might just be the least of your results.
Tip #2 – Ditch the victim mentality
Oh, it’s so easy to let the victim mindset take over. I know because I was stuck there for many years during and after my last marriage. You feel like there’s nothing you can do, and you don’t have any control over your circumstances or your life. And that’s a dangerous place to be. Because the truth is you are the only one who has control over your life. Whether your situation is positive or filled with negativity, your choices are what put you there. And only your choices can move you past it.
The one thing you can do to get past this is to choose one area in your life that you can control and then do it. Seeing yourself in control and making a decision for yourself, no matter how small is extremely empowering. And when you’ve done it once, you can do it again, and again until you don’t see yourself as a victim any longer. Every little change you make adds up to create a significantly different experience.
Being stuck in a victim mindset can be a hard place to move on from. If you think you need professional help to deal with it, then you probably do. Don’t let fear or a perceived lack of control hold you back from getting the help you need.
Tip #3 – Practice using positive language
Words carry energy and can have a huge influence on your emotions.
Think about someone who carries a negative attitude, complains all the time and never looks for the good in anything. They’re probably never happy because they can’t find anything to be happy or positive about. It’s a vicious circle really.
If you find yourself using a lot of negative language, make a conscious effort to reframe things in a more positive light. For example, instead of stressing and fretting that you’ll never get your work done, you can reframe it and say something like, “I’ll do as much as I can right now, and finish it another time.”
Using positive self-talk is important not only for giving yourself an attitude adjustment, but it also helps build up your confidence and self-esteem as well.
So, there you have it… Three simple tips for giving yourself an attitude adjustment that require only a little change. Small changes are still changes that keep you moving forward to a better attitude and more positive outlook on life.