Success isn’t just a one and done event. It’s the culmination and continuation of a thousand little things. There are so many different elements that can contribute to your success (or failure), and unless you’re extremely clear on your goals, it can be hard to know where to focus your energy.
If that’s where you are, you must be feeling really stuck right now. Without focus it’s like spinning your wheels in the mud… you’re not going anywhere. There are things you can do, though, to help get yourself back on track.
Here are six tips to give you a little push and boost your success.
Tip #1 –
Tell others when they’re doing a good job
Do you remember when the last time was that someone praised you for doing a good job? Remember how it made you feel? Most people get a positive boost in energy and confidence when they receive praise and acknowledgement for a job well done.
The same is true when giving praise to another person. When you give praise that is authentic and sincere you can lift another person’s spirits and boost their energy and confidence. You don’t want to give false encouragement if it’s not warranted, but telling others when they do a good job can help improve your success just as much as if you received a compliment yourself.
Tip #2 –
Create daily rituals
Daily rituals give you a sense of purpose. Whether you’re an employee, a stay-at-home mom, a CEO, or a student, daily routines help limit distractions and can make you feel confident and energized. CNBC notes that a morning routine such as having a checklist or creating a priority order list can increase productivity and success.
Tip #3 –
Learn how to say “No”
It may seem counterintuitive to say no to become successful, but learning to say no can be one of the best things you can do to become successful. Saying yes all the time leads to low self-esteem, exhaustion and often depression or burnout.
Let people know what you can do and what you can’t take on at the moment. Because when you say yes to something for someone else, you’ll end up having to say no to something for yourself. As Gary Keller says in The One Thing, “When you say yes to something, it’s imperative that you what you’re saying no to.”
Recommended Read: The One Thing, by Gary Keller
Tip #4 –
Embrace delayed gratification
Our society is built on instant gratification. Unfortunately, instant gratification has been shown to be one of the worst indicators of future success. In 1972, the Marshmallow Experiment involved young children who were placed in front of marshmallows with the promise of the second marshmallow if they could wait 15 minutes for the researcher to come back into the room.
This study followed up with the children 40 years later. Researchers found that those study subjects who were able to delay gratification by resisting the temptation to eat the marshmallows enjoyed higher success rates.
INC.com highlights how these people who delayed gratification not only had better social skills, higher test scores, lower substance abuse rate but they also were less obese and better able to deal with stress. All of these are indicators that they were more successful in life. It is never too late to teach yourself how to delay gratification.
Tip #5 –
Don’t be a quitter
Success is uncomfortable. Many times before you succeed, you will be at the most uncomfortable you have ever been in your life. There’s a quote that says that the very moment you want to quit is probably the precipice of success.
So many times people will only go so far and then quit. Stop quitting when it gets uncomfortable, and you’ll find life is exceedingly more rewarding than it would’ve been if you quit.
Tip #6 –
Find the right work-life balance
I have to admit I’m not a big believer in work-life balance, at least not the way most people understand it. If you’re thinking of balance as all things being equal, I just don’t believe that gets anyone anywhere. What I do believe in is that you can learn to juggle the times when work is important with the times that family and life are more important, and in doing so you get the best out of both worlds. And that adds up to a pretty big success in my view.
No matter what your definition of success is, these six steps can help get you there. Remember that your success may look different from anyone else’s, but it is still success.