When you have low self-confidence, you might sometimes feel you don't deserve the credit you receive. This happens to a lot of people. It’s called impostor syndrome, and it is more common than you might think. For example, a survey of Harvard Business School students found that 75% felt like they got into school because of some failure in the admission process.
Successful people in all walks of life often feel like they are going to get "found out"; that everyone around them is going to wake up one day and realize they are not the successful achiever they appear to be.
When you have impostor syndrome, you could live in constant fear of people discovering you’re a fraud and don't deserve the wealth, career, success or job you currently have. The problem is that in most cases you really do deserve the success you’ve achieved – it’s just your low self-confidence bringing out these feelings of low self-worth.
So, are you an impostor of do you just think you are?
There are several signs and traits that are commonly found in people who don’t believe they deserve their success. If more than a couple apply to you, don't worry. you're not alone. Instead, take steps to start believing in yourself, build your confidence and realize that you do deserve every drop of success that comes your way.
On the other hand, if none of these apply to you… well, maybe you really are an impostor after all.
1. You have a real problem accepting praise.
No matter how many compliments, awards and hallmarks you earn, you truly don't believe you deserve the credit that is given to you.
2. You don't delegate
You work too much, and spend time on a job or task long after it has reached the stage where you can pass it on to someone else who it is more appropriate for.
3. You tend to be a perfectionist
You constantly think your work is not good enough, and even if 99% is achieved, you push for 100% perfection. (If you're not sure you're a perfectionist, here are a few more ways to tell.)
4. You feel like you must be the best at what you do.
Being just one of the best is not good enough for the person suffering from impostor syndrome.
5. The idea of failure sometimes paralyzes you into inaction.
This state can be absolutely stressful, filling you with high levels of doubt and anxiety, and you believe that not only is failure a bad thing, but it is simply not an option.
6. You sometimes fear success
Since you don't feel like you truly deserve the credit for the things you achieve, you don't look forward to success.
7. You have a hard time displaying confidence
This trait is more common in women with impostor syndrome than men.
8. You justify your successes
While this can be a sign of true modesty, people with impostor syndrome tend to relate their own successes and victories to the work and efforts of others.
9. You also make excuses for them
You chalk wins and successes up to charm, good looks or something else. Stop doing this. You worked hard to get what you have, so give yourself credit for doing so.
So, how many of these apply to you? Personally, I can see at least five that I know apply to me and that I’m working to overcome. You too can take the first step in kicking impostor syndrome to the curb by joining the 30-Day Confidence Building Challenge. Click the graphic below to sign up.
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