Low self-esteem can cause negative self-talk. Negative self-talk can lower your self-esteem. This creates a perpetual vicious cycle where you continually feel bad about yourself.
The good news is that you can change the way you talk to and about yourself. When you conquer negative self-talk, and learn to “talk like you like yourself,” your self-esteem will improve. You’ll gain more self-confidence and you’ll feel more optimistic about your life in general.
Here’s what you need to know to get started.
Pay attention to your thoughts.
Every action begins with a thought. If you think that you’re destined to be overweight, then it doesn’t matter how many diet books you buy or how many nutritionists you talk to, you’re still going to be overweight. You’ll stay overweight because you haven’t changed your mindset.
If you want to change your life, you have to change your thoughts first. Instead of thinking that you’re destined to be overweight, flip the script. Say to yourself, ‘I am in control of what I eat and how much I eat’. Doing this changes the story you’re telling yourself. And when you change the plot, you also change how it ends.
Let negative thoughts float on by.
You are the only one with the power to change your mental soundtrack. Just because you have a negative thought doesn’t mean you have to grab on to it and make it part of your mindset. You have the power to change your focus which means you also have the power to reject any thought that crosses your mind Instead of grabbing onto it, let it float by and look for the next positive thought instead.
Fill Up on the Positive
It’s hard to stay positive if you’re constantly consuming negative information. If you really want to eliminate your negative self-talk, then you have to focus on consuming good stuff. You want to read and watch content that lifts you up. Not only will you feel better, you’ll notice that your self-talk is more optimistic when you focus on the good.
Practice positive affirmations.
What you say about yourself becomes your truth. That’s why it can be helpful to practice positive affirmations every day. Start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself, ‘Today, I choose to be happy’ or ‘Today, I choose to fully accept myself’. When you speak these thoughts out loud, they’ll begin to affect how you talk to yourself and how you live your life.
Everyone struggles with negative self-talk at some point in their life. The important thing is not to beat yourself up when catch yourself doing it. Accept that you had a negative thought and replace it with a positive one.
NOTE: This is Part 4 of a 5-part series on believing in yourself and building self-confidence.
Part 1 – Believing In Yourself – The First Step To Building More Confidence
Part 2 – Believing in Yourself – What Stops You?
Part 3 – Believing in Yourself – How Does Your Outer World Affect Your Self-Esteem?
Part 4 – Believing In Yourself – How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk (You are here)
Part 5 – Believing In Yourself – Creating a Future You Can Believe In