Happiness is a choice. It sounds so simple, and yet it’s true.
You can choose to let your circumstances get you down or you can choose to be happy no matter what challenges life brings.
Happiness is already within each of us and we are born to be naturally happy! For example, have you ever noticed how infectious a baby’s giggle is? So why is it that, as we get older, we forget where to find happiness within ourselves and, instead, allow outside forces to determine our happiness?
Self-confidence is also a choice. Sure it takes some work to build, but you and only you can choose to be confident, or not.
Just as with happiness…
You can choose to let your circumstances sap your confidence or you can choose to be self-confident and face whatever challenges life brings.
You can use these strategies to create happiness in your own life:
Find something you love to do and do it. Do you have a lifelong dream or desire? If so, start working toward it. Taking baby steps towards a dream or goal will help you feel like you’re accomplishing something.
You’ll find drive and determination to reach that goal when it’s something you love to do. And when you love what you’re doing you’ll not only be happier, you’ll be more confident in doing it.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Cliché, I know, however it’s so true. You don’t have to let life’s troubles and problems get you down.
Yes, there will always be troubles because no one is perfect, but you can choose your reaction to situations. Look at the positive side of things and work hard to see the good in people and circumstances.
Every time you choose to react positively to a negative situation, you’re also building up your confidence. Every time you do this, it gets easier and easier because you’ve done it before and you know you can do it now.
Find your purpose and put your talents to use! You have natural gifts and talents to help you achieve your purpose, so use your gifts effectively! One reason so many people are unhappy is that they’re not doing what they’re called to do with their God-given talents. Each and every one of us has a purpose in life.
Think about all the things you have to be thankful for. Often you get so caught up in what’s wrong with your life that you forget to look at what’s right and good. Take a step back and reflect on your life. How far have you come from, say, six months ago?
Make a gratitude journal and write down five things you are grateful for every day. Seeing a list of all you have, and all you have accomplished will fuel your happiness and your confidence at the same time. Because how could you not be happy and confident in yourself when you can see all you have done?
When you’re feeling down, don’t wallow in your sorrows alone; do something about it.
Some days no matter how hard you try, you need a little help to be happy. So when you do feel down, call a friend who you know is positive and cheerful. Talk about your feelings and listen to their advice.
Depression is a real problem, and all too often, people allow themselves to go deeper and deeper into self-pity or depression because they think it has to be that way. The truth is, you don’t have to be sad and you shouldn’t be. You can decide to be happy. You just have to make up your minds to do so.
Using a journal to record your thoughts and feelings can also help when you’re feeling down. Often you’ll find that just getting your feelings down on paper will allow you to work through them, helping you to feel better about yourself and your beautiful life!
If you’ve been prone to look at life negatively, then you’ll have to put some effort into seeing and choosing happiness. But don’t let that stop you from being happy! You, too, can learn to be happy.
Practice the steps above and train your mind to focus intensely on the positives. When you feel a negative thought coming on, or your mind gravitates toward the negative, learn to recognize it, stop it in its tracks, and then start thinking happier thoughts.
As you start to choose happiness, you will find that your self-confidence and self-esteem also being to grow.
Make the conscious choice to be happy today!
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