Part of accepting yourself (the A in the ABCs of self-confidence) means accepting and acknowledging the things you do well. I know from my own experience that when you’re feeling less than confident, it’s easy to discount the things we do well as nothing special. But they are special, and they’re what make you the unique person you are.
Today’s confidence quick fix is to make what I call a “cool me” list. This is where you write down all of your strengths, your skills, and your accomplishments in a notebook you can look back at whenever you need a confidence boost. It’s a type of confidence journal, but not quite the same as one where you record your thoughts on the confidence-building process.
Here’s what to do…
Step #1 – Get a new notebook just for this
You could make your list on a piece of scrap paper or in your existing journal, but that wouldn’t be as special. What you’re going for here is something that’s visually appealing to you… something that looks “cool”.
It’s even more important to have this list in a format that you can hold and feel. The tactile sensation of writing your list down in the notebook, adding to it over time, and most importantly, having the book to hold whenever you refer back to it makes it seem a lot more real, memorable, and believable. Trust me on this. Go find a notebook that appeals to you and use it as your very own confidence journal.
Step #2 – Create your list and start adding items
To start with treat it like a positive brain dump – write down anything and everything you can think of that you’ve accomplished and that you’re proud of. Then add to that with a list of your strong points and any skills you’ve collected over the years. Also add your achievements – awards, certificates, anything you can think of that you’ve done well and that reminds you of times when you were confident.
This may seem a little strange at first, but stick with it and you’ll get more comfortable with the process.
Remember that you don’t need to show anyone your confidence journal. This is for you, and you alone. It’s a place to remind yourself of everything you’ve accomplished when you’re having a bad day.
Step #3 – Add pictures, sketches, stickers, and mementos
It can help you remember the times when you were confident in the past if you add visual aids. You can turn your Cool, Confident Me journal into a scrapbook if you want. Add pictures of big thiings you’ve accomplished, stickers of motivational sayings, sketches and doodles of how you’re feeling as you reminisce over all the great things you’ve done. You can even add things like ticket stubs, programs, postcards, and anything else that serves as a reminder of the positive accomplishments and achievements of your life.
The idea behind all this is to make it personal and make it real.
Add some color, some doodles, or some sketches. Make the journal your own and something you’ll look forward to browse through going forward. There’s no right or wrong way to do this. The only rule is to create the book and it’s something that can and should evolve over time.
Step #4 – Keep adding to it and use if often
Finally, make sure you use your “Cool, Confident Me” book. Keeping adding to it as you accomplish new things and feel good about yourself. And on those days when confidence is nowhere to be found, pull out your journal and look through it. When you realize all that you’ve accomplished and can acknowledge your talents and strengths you’ll be more accepting of yourself, and that translates into being more confident too.
Try it! Let me know how it goes for you.