Building self-confidence takes a variety of tools, so that when you’re working on it you address both the inner and outer parts of yourself. One tool that often gets overlooked is meditation. Because of the tendency to see meditation as a spiritual tool, or even just as a stress reliever it’s value in boosting self-confidence often goes unnoticed.
In today's Confidence Quickie, we're going to change that thought. The truth is that meditation can be used to strengthen any emotion or skill, and we're going to use it to build self-confidence.
When you meditate, you bring a great amount of awareness into your mind. In the moment of meditation you hold the power to decide exactly what your life is all about. The past and the future melt away, and all that’s left is you. So when you actively decide to boost your confidence, you will!
Three Steps To Bringing Confidence Into Your Awareness
1. Bring Past Feelings Into The Present
The first thing you should do is recognize what confidence feels like to you. Take a moment to recall different times in your life that you felt especially confident. How exactly did you feel?
For example, maybe you remember a time when you entered a sports competition. You trained hard and you believed in yourself. How did you feel when you were standing on the start line?
Now, imagine that you now have to lead a group of people at work. You’re feeling a little scared about it because all of the details are not falling into place as you’d like. Meditate on the feelings of confidence.
Bring the positive emotions from past successes into your present and approach your problem with those positive feelings instead.
2. Visualize Your Future
In order to strengthen your meditation skills to encourage greater confidence, it may help to picture future circumstances turning out in your favor. When you sit down to meditate, be very detailed in your visions. Use the confident feelings you know you have and place them into the situations you’re envisioning.
This is a good activity to try if you feel that negative emotions are overtaking you. However, for the most part you should be concentrating on the present moment and taking life one breath at a time.
3. Stay In The Moment
Sometimes when you’re overwhelmed with problems you will feel negative emotions, instead of the confidence you need to overcome challenges. This is when it’s especially important to stay in the now.
When you meditate on each breath and focus on the present moment, you’ll realize how very simple life is underneath all the challenges you're dealing with. You’ll be able to calm down. With a calm head you can then reach for the confidence you seek.
Meditation Basics to Remember
· Find a place where you can be alone with your thoughts.
· Sit in an upright position with good posture.
· Fight the urge to take a nap or go to bed.
· Take deep inhales and long exhales.
· Pause in between breaths.
· Repeat a mantra or affirmation to yourself as you breathe in and out. An example of something simple to repeat to yourself is “I am confident”.
Meditation is an art that takes practice. Just like anything else, when you practice often you’ll get better at it. You should use the art of meditation for more than just an emergency confidence booster.
Plan to make meditation a part of your daily routine!
The more you practice, the easier it will be for you to reach your meditative state. You will also find that the more you meditate, the more you will see which forms of meditation work best for you. Understanding and confidence will become part of your life and you’ll feel a greater power within.
It’s easy to talk and read about meditation, but it’s quite another experience to do it.
In theory it sounds like such an easy and delightful practice. The truth is that you’re likely to get bored at first and you’ll probably make excuses about whether or not you really have the time for it. Strive to remain disciplined and keep up with your practice. When you do, you’ll experience a true inner peace and confidence like never before.