It sucks, but things change. Usually when you least expect them to. When change strikes and you find yourself on a new path, it doesn't matter whether it's a planned change or not, it still has the ability to turn your orderly life into chaos.
The big thing I've found when dealing with change is that attitude plays a huge part in how smooth the transition to your new path is. It's natural to get discouraged, but you'll have a much easier transition if you just don't allow it. Change is as natural as breathing, and if you approach it in the right way, you may just find that this new path you're on is filled with amazing opportunities.
Here are a few tips you can use to make sure you are embracing change instead of just getting through it.
Take baby steps
When I was younger and we were swimming in Lake Erie, my father used to always tell us to take small steps and watch where we were walking. You never knew what was going to be in the sand or on the lake bottom and watching where you were stepping was a lot better than ending up with a fish hook stuck in your foot.
It's the same with change. One small step at a time makes it much easier to see how change is affecting you. Plus, if you go slowly and watch where you're walking, you get to enjoy the beauty of a new path. Just racing by to get to the end spoils the beauty of the journey. And when it comes right down to it, change really is just another journey. Even if you don't know where the path is leading you can still enjoy the sights along the way.
Keep your mind and your options open
Keeping an open mind means you should always expect the best out of your new adventure. A positive attitude will get you much further and make embracing change easier than a negative one will.
Even when it hurts, change often is what is needed to take us to the next level. When you embrace change you put into motion new options and opportunities that will help you achieve your goals. Pay attention to the path, and don't be afraid to explore a fork in the road when it's presented to you.
Know yourself and trust your intuition
You are the one person who knows yourself best -- or at least, you should be. If you really know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses you will know which direction to take going forward. Use the life lessons you have learned up to this point, and trust your intuition to guide you so that you don't end up making the same mistakes again.
Let others know how you feel
Sometimes the change we are expected to embrace comes because others in our life have made a decision that affects us. Speaking up for yourself and letting others know how you feel about the changes being imposed on you can help to make the transition go more smoothly.
It's entirely possible that the person making the decision doesn't know you are not feeling great about making changes, and if you don't speak up they never will. Working together and being honest with everyone involved is a great way to explore new options that will ensure everyone gets what they need out of the new experience.
Kick fear to the curb
I can't say this loudly or strongly enough -- DO NOT let fear hold you back from embracing change.
Yes, the unknown can be scary.
Yes, you will have to meet new people and try new experiences.
If you are feeling really anxious about things, remember point #3 above -- know yourself and trust your intuition. If you are really honest with yourself, you know the difference between your intuition telling you to run far and run fast, and your fearfulness telling you that stepping outside your comfort zone is scary.
Put on your big girl panties, kick fear to the curb, and do it anyways. You'll be glad you did.
Embracing change does not have to be scary. If you allow yourself to be open to the new opportunities and adventures that change can bring, you may find it's just what you needed to take the next step on the path toward living your best life.