Something that comes up for me again and again is the concept of an inferiority complex. I’m forever comparing myself to others and coming up short, at least to my own way of thinking. What I’ve found is that I’m not alone in this. There are way too many people out there who don’t give themselves credit for all the cool things they can do.
The reality is that we’re never going to be exactly like someone else. We’re all different, and thank goodness for that! So why do we spend the time putting ourselves down and dismissing the skills and talents and gifts we were given because they’re not the same as someone else?
Have you ever stopped to think about just how much energy it takes to maintain that inferiority complex when you could be putting all that energy into really boosting your confidence instead of beating yourself up? You’ve got to admit, it’s not easy to take a couple of perceived shortcomings and convince yourself that you’re totally useless and a failure as a human being.
I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t have the answer to why we do this to ourselves. What I do have is a few tips you can use to overcome feelings of inferiority and boost your self-confidence.
It’s easy to put yourself down with blanket statements like “I’m fat,” “I’m lazy,” or “I’m too short.” But those statements only describe one part of you, not the whole you.
To start the confidence boosting process make a list of all your characteristics and whether they make you feel inferior or good about yourself.
Another thing you can do is identify who makes you feel inferior and why. It’s important to remember that an inferiority complex stems from wanting to be like someone else. As soon as you try to be someone you’re not, you tell yourself that you’re not good enough just as you are.
Pay attention to your self-talk
How you talk to yourself has a huge effect on both your confidence and your inferiority complex. Negative self-talk will embed those feelings of inadequacy into your mind, while positive self-talk will boost your confidence and have you believing in yourself instead.
Figure out what you need to stop feeling inferior
And more importantly is it something you have control over? You may feel like you’re less than because you’re too short, but chances are you stopped growing a long time ago. Being taller isn’t something you have control over, so there’s no point in letting it define who you are.
There are plenty of things in your life that you can do something about, so focus on those when it comes to boosting your self-esteem and confidence levels.
Above all, be yourself. When you’re making changes, check in with yourself to see how comfortable they feel. If it still feels like you’re trying to be someone else, have another rethink about what you really want.
Focus on the wins
Pay attention to the good things in your life, especially the little things you do well each day. Record them in a journal for keeping track of your accomplishments and when you’re having an inferior moment, look back at everything you have already accomplished and feel the boost of energy that gives you.
Finally, accept that others aren’t really paying attention to you at all
Feelings of inferiority stem from worrying about what other people think of you. As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
The only person whose opinion matters when it comes to you is your own. Focus on the good things you like about yourself, change the things you don’t if you can, and learn to live with the ones you can’t change.
Play to your strengths, keep your self-talk positive, and understand that no one is watching. When you accept and embrace your uniqueness, you’ll find that letting go of your inferiority complex is easier than you thought, and you’ll enjoy to boost to your self-confidence too!