Today, as I start on a mission to create 100 blog posts in 100 days, the first thing that needs to be done is address the issue of giving up. Because I’ve tried this before, and the furthest I’ve made it is about six days. So I thought that today, for my first post, I would give some serious thought to why we give up on our projects, our dreams, our ability to get things done, and offer up a few suggestions on how to stay empowered when you feel like giving up. Mostly, it’s a touchstone post for me, so that when I feel like giving up (and I know I will at some point over the next 100 days), I can come back here and remind myself what to do to keep going.
It’s true; the most successful people have the ability to keep going when others would give up. Giving up is a bad habit, one that we learn from childhood. But just as we learned how to give up when we were younger, we can unlearn that habit and create new ones that empower us to keep moving forward, no matter how much we might want to quit.
One word before we go any further here… There are times when giving up and moving on is absolutely the right thing to do. Those are not what I’m talking about here. What I’m talking about is when your self-limiting beliefs creep in, or you don’t have the energy to keep going, or you see something else you might like to try (otherwise known as “shiny object syndrome”), or you’re just plain frustrated and want to throw your hands in the air and give up. That’s when you’re feeling less than empowered and it doesn’t have to be that way.
3 Reasons for Feeling Unempowered and Ready To Give Up
Let’s start by talking about why you might be feeling unempowered and wanting to give up.
You are un-energized
A lack of energy is a common reason for quitting other pursuits. It’s also the primary reason this blog was started. Whether your exhaustion is physical or mental, it’s going to play havoc with your motivation and your desire to reach your goals.
To help boost your energy:
• Get a full night of sleep.
• Get better control over your schedule.
• Streamline your life.
• Eat more nutritious foods.
• Learn how to relax.
You lack focus.
Too many distractions can result in feelings of overwhelm and the desire to give up. Are you trying to accomplish too many other things? If you feel overwhelmed, narrow your focus to your most important goals.
It’s not that important to you.
Do you know why are you doing this activity in the first place? Is your “why” a good enough reason to keep going?
Remind yourself of why it’s important to keep going. Maybe the best motivation you can find is setting a good example for your children. Maybe the most important issue is self-respect. Find a good reason to continue.
Understand the reasons behind your feelings of wanting to give up. It’s natural to want to quit. And most people do. Will you be one of the few that’s able to persevere? It’s just a matter of putting one foot in front of the other until you’re finished.
5 Ways To Re-Empower Yourself To Reach Your Goals
Revisit your original purpose. Is that motivation enough? If it’s not, you’ll need to find a new reason. If you can’t think of one, that might be a sign that you should be doing something else. But don’t give up too quickly. Look deeply. You’ll almost certainly find a compelling reason to continue.
Create small successes. Nothing is more motivating than success. Set yourself up for regular success by setting easy goals that move you forward. These baby steps can result in the momentum you need to carry you to the finish line. Just focus on the immediate task and forget about the rest.
Focus on the endpoint. The path might not be enjoyable, but the end result should be. Keep your eye on how great you’ll feel when you’ve reached the end. By focusing on the endpoint, you can maintain your motivation more easily. Visualize your ideal endpoint twice each day.
Stay on schedule. Once your motivation begins to wane, it’s easy to lose track of your goal. Other activities seem to take over your schedule and it becomes easier to procrastinate. So, make a schedule that will ensure you stay engaged. Make time so you don’t have an excuse to quit.
Ask yourself how you’ll feel if you allow yourself to give up. Quitting sounds good in the short-term, but we usually regret it later on. How will you feel in a week, month, or year from today if you let yourself quit?
Learning to keep going, no matter how strong the desire to give up, is empowering. And it’s a great indicator of your ability to be successful. Just because you feel the urge to give up, it doesn’t mean you have to. You will eventually succeed if you can continue moving toward your goal.
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