A common theme when you’re dealing with low self-confidence is that everyone else is better than you. The truth is, you can most likely find people who are better than you and just about everything. You don’t even have to look very hard.
But, ask yourself this… If no two people are exactly alike, why do we spend so much time beating ourselves up and comparing ourselves to others?
What if, the next time you start feeling like others are better, happier, healthier, wealthier, “fill-in-the-blank”-er than you, you tried at least one of these five tips to boost your own self-confidence.
Tip #1 – Be honest with yourself
If you lie to yourself, you really are your own worst enemy. When you’re feeling inferior and like you are worse than everyone and just about everything, start lifting yourself with a dose of self-honesty.
Remind yourself that you are only one of 7 billion people on the planet, and that there’s no way every single one of them is better at everything than you are.
The truth is probably somewhere in the middle. You are most likely average at a bunch of things, really horrible at others, and absolutely wonderful at a select few. Focus on what you’re the best at, and work on the other areas where you want to improve. But stop allowing yourself to get bogged down in the energy of thinking you’re not as good as everyone else.
Tip #2 – Take action on your thoughts
What I said in the last section bears repeating – Don’t let yourself get bogged down in the energy of thinking you’re inferior to others.
Instead, take action on those thoughts and do something about it. For example, if you think everyone else is thinner than you, start an exercise program or change your eating habits. If you think other people create better video than you, take a course and learn how to create your own amazing videos.
See where I’m going with this? If you want to improve there are always ways to go about it. Wallowing in the negative energy of “everyone else is better than me” isn’t going to get you anywhere and it’s certainly not going to improve your self-confidence.
Tip #3 – Acknowledge your strengths
A key part of building your self-confidence is acknowledging your strengths and playing to them. Write down all your strengths, your abilities, your talents, and your successes. You can use a confidence journal to record everything so you have a record of it. Then review this list every day until it sinks in that you are good at many things, you have done many things that no one else has, and you are successful!
Related Article: A Crash Course in Playing To Your Strengths
Tip #4 – Move Your Body
If it seems like just about every article I write mentions getting more exercise, you’re right. That’s because exercise has more than just physical benefits. It boosts your mood, and that, in turn, makes you feel more positive.
When you find yourself feeling down and inferior to everyone around you, go for a walk, ride your bike, or hit the gym. Putting your body to work for you will get the endorphins flowing, so that by the time you’re done you can’t help but feel better about yourself.
Don’t forget to write your exercise accomplishments in your journal too!
Tip #5 – Always remember that your shortcomings do NOT define you
Remember having to write lines in school? You know … like 100 times “I will not talk in class.” No? I guess you were better behaved than I was. *grin*
Anyways… write this statement down:
My __________ does not define me!
And fill in the blank with whatever you’re feeling inferior about. Then write it and rewrite it until you believe it.
You are not defined by your weight, your car, your clothing, your income, your beauty or anything else. Those are only characteristics of where you are in your life right now. A failure or shortcoming is just an event, not who you are.
Instead of focusing your perceived shortcomings, spend your time thinking about your strengths, and your accomplishments. You’ll feel better for it in the long run.