As we talked about in Day 2, there is a relationship between confidence and courage. Taking small steps that require a little courage can build your confidence. And once you start to build your confidence, you’re able to take steps that require even more courage.
The good news is that courage is a habit, and it’s one that with a little awareness and motivation, you can control and cultivate. And this challenge is the perfect place to start to build your courage habit.
You don’t have to do anything huge. In fact, small acts of courage will work just fine to build your new habit.
I think that we always make things harder for ourselves than they have to be. The world seems to expect huge gestures, so it’s common to think that if you’re going to build your courage you have to do something huge like go sky-diving or something equally fearless. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. As author Mary Ann Radmacher says,
“Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow.”
So, how to you start to build your courage habit?
Here are 4 tips you can use to get started.
Tip #1 - Make A List
Since we’re talking about building courage, the first thing to do is make a list of all the things you’d like to try that push your courage limits just a little bit. Start with things that scare you or challenge you, and keep adding as you think of things. You won’t think of everything all at once. But, if you can come up with 10 things to do, you’re off to a great start.
Then, choose one thing on the list each day to do. Record your efforts and the outcome in your journal.
Tip #2 – Notice New Opportunities to Use Your Courage
Have you noticed how when you focus on something, it starts to show up all over the place in your life? Like, when we bought our new Hyundai, all of a sudden I started noticing Hyundai’s everywhere.
It makes sense then, that as you’re building your new habit, more opportunities to use your courage will show up. It’s up to you to notice them, and to not shy away from challenges.
Record what you notice in your journal, what you did about it, and how it made you feel. And don’t forget to add any challenges you didn’t act on to your list so you can tackle them later.
Tip #3 – Hang out with people who will challenge you
If you’re anything like me, making friends and hanging out with people is an act of courage in itself.
The thing is, we need social interaction and we need it with people who will challenge and support us to be our best selves. If your current group of contacts doesn’t encourage you to go beyond your comfort zone, consider finding a new group to hang out with.
These tips should help you get started to build your courage and confidence muscles. Make a list of things you want to try, keep your eyes open for new opportunities, and find a group of supportive friends who will help you on your journey. Don’t forget to journal your experiences along the way so you have something to refer back to when you’re in need of a confidence boost.