It can be a huge confidence boost when you stop and think about all you’ve accomplished in your life. If we're really honest, there’s a lot each and every one of us has done over the past few days, weeks, and even years that we can be proud of.
The sad thing is, we often don’t see it, and when we do we dismiss it as not important. There always seems to be so much left on the to-do list and we end up focusing on the stuff we didn’t do, or the things we failed at, instead of celebrating our successes.
Let’s change that today and focus on the wins and how far we’ve come already.
Here are three ways you can focus on what you’ve accomplished and celebrate it.
1. Make Time For Reflection and Gratitude
The simplest way to make sure you see and notice what you’ve accomplished and how far you’ve come is to get in the habit of spending a few minutes either in the morning or right before bed for reflection and gratitude.
When you wake up in the morning, before you jump out of bed, while you’re drinking that first cup of coffee, or even while you’re taking your shower, think about what you’ve accomplished and what you’re grateful for.
I do this first thing in the morning because it sets a positive and confident tone for the whole day ahead. You can do it at night too, if that works better for you. I sometimes do both morning and bedtime if it’s been an especially eventful day.
Either way, make it a daily habit and you will notice your confidence growing.
2. Use a Journal and Habit Trackers
Sometimes, if you’re having trouble believing in yourself, it’s easier to see your accomplishments in black and white. This is where a journal comes in handy. Spend a few minutes each day writing down your wins.
If you’re trying to establish better habits, you can try a habit tracker. You basically set up a grid with the habits you want to establish and little check boxes next to them. Grid paper and excel spreadsheets work well for this. Then, as you complete your habit for the day, you get to check it off. It can be very motivating to see a month’s worth of little checkmarks on your habit tracker.
Bullet journaling can be very good for both recording your wins and tracking your habits. You can make note of your wins as they happen throughout the day, and there are many great examples of habit trackers that bullet journalists have created.
For the sake of full disclosure, I have tried both. I use my bullet journal every day, but the habit tracker doesn’t work for me. I’m great at making them, and horrible at going back to fill in the little boxes. I’ve recently switched to a different system of habit tracker where instead of making one huge list, I do several little lists for each area of my life based on the clarity coaching program, and that works a little better but I’m still not great at it.
As I’ve mentioned before, with your journal, make it a point to go back and review your wins on a regular basis and of course whenever you need a little boost of self-esteem and confidence. Look online for plenty of journaling and habit tracker ideas. Pinterest is really great for journaling ideas. Give the ones that look good a try and come up with a system that works for you.
3. Get Your Own Cheering Section
Yesterday, I suggested hanging out with people who support and challenge you as a way to build your courage habit. I'm going to repeat that today and tell you to consider getting your own personal cheering section.
No, I’m not suggesting you hire actual cheerleaders with pompoms to follow you around everywhere. Instead, find a good friend or family member who’s encouraging already and ask them to cheer you on. Give them a call whenever you’re feeling low, or don’t want to do something so they can encourage you and give you that boost of confidence (or a kick in the butt) to do what you need to do. They can also help by reminding you of how much you’ve already accomplished and helping you celebrate your wins when they happen.
It's important to remind ourselves of how far we’ve come from where we started on this journey. All the little steps you take each day add up to some pretty big wins over time. Reflect on them, be grateful for the experiences and record it all in your journal so that you can go back and recall those accomplishments when you need a little boost. Celebrate your wins instead of trying to pass them off as nothing special. They are special, and so are you!
What have you accomplished that you’re proud of? Come to the group and share so we can celebrate with you!