We all have those days – you know, the ones where you’d rather crawl in a cave than appear happy and positive. Often when we feel overwhelmed or are dealing with challenges it seems like the easy way out to just sink into feelings of negativity or despair.
So, how do you say positive when you really don’t feel like it?
Here are a few ways to lighten your mood and get back to being the positive person you know you can be.
Tip #1 –
Start your day on a positive note
One of the best things you can do for yourself is start each morning on a positive note. Nothing has happened yet to derail your day, so making the decision to be positive is pretty easy and painless one.
You can start your day off positively by creating a morning routine that sets the stage for a successful day. One of the things I’ve been doing recently is meditating as soon as I wake up. I’ve been using the Headspace app to help keep me and focused for the first five minutes of my morning and I’m finding that it really helps.
If you’re not sure how to create a morning routine, check out The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod. He’s got a whole system you can borrow to get started building up positive energy in the mornings.
Tip #2 –
Set your goals for the day
As part of your morning routine, you might want to set your goals for the day. You should be doing something every day to bring you closer to achieving your long-term goals. But, if you wake up each morning with positive to look forward to then it’s easier to grab the negative feelings that are always trying to barge their way in, and that sets the tone for a grumpy day instead of the positive one you’re looking for.
You can find a great primer on setting goals for both the long term and the present moment in the book The One Thing by Gary Keller.
Planning is key for this, so you should be setting aside some planning time to figure out your goals and why they are important to you.
Use your journaling skills to ask yourself questions like:
- Why is this goal important to me?
- How will I feel when I’ve achieved my goal?
- How will achieving this goal improve my life?
Tip #3 –
Hang out with positive people
There’s nothing I’ve found that cheers me up faster than hanging out with my friends and their positive attitudes. I know I mentioned this in a previous post, but spending time with positive people who encourage you and bring out the best in you really is a great way to up both your positive energy and your self-esteem.
Tip #4 –
Don’t beat yourself up for having a bad day
We all have bad days every once in a while. The trick is not to string together a series of bad days because that is what will get you stuck and keep you there.
The worst thing you can do for yourself is beat yourself up for having a bad day. Just accept the feelings that are flowing through you, and make the best of it. Think about one thing you can do right now that will move you forward. It doesn’t matter what that one thing is… sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is have a nap!
Always remember that no one can be 100 percent positive 100 percent of the time, no matter how much we’d like to be… we’re not that perfect (at least I know for sure I’m not). But tomorrow is a new day and a new chance to take positive steps forward. If you remember that, it’s easier to stay positive even when you really don’t feel like it.